Finding Who You Really Are vs The Role You Play – Andre Radmall | No Schedule Man Podcast, Ep. 52
The question today is …
Who are you?
Do you know who know who you really are, and if so, are you living from that each day … or just playing a role?
Or … if you’re like today’s guests, you may be able to do both.
A self-described “student of transformation,” Andre Radmall is a registered psychotherapist (UKCP, BUPA) and life coach based in London England with over twenty years experience working for the Priory Hospital, London School of Theology and in private practice. Andre is also an international speaker and trainer who combines his drama and therapy experience to offer a unique approach to business coaching (he gives us some terrific examples of this during our discussion). Andre is the author of the books “Insight Into Addiction” and “Holistic Health”
Andre has a unique approach that has grown out of more than twenty years of helping people change. Over the years, he realized that one big reason for people getting stuck in habits of addiction, stress or eating disorders was the way they saw themselves. He came to see that people are much more likely to fall into stress, addiction or a bad relationship when they don’t know who they are. When people start to see themselves more clearly they start to change the story about who they are and what they can do. This is a change that transforms people emotionally, behaviourally, cognitively and spiritually. I have come to describe this change as “rewriting the book of our lives.”
My imagination came alive as I spoke to Andre. What he shared both made perfect sense and struck me as something I’d never quite heard in the same way before. I was really interested in some of Andre’s observations about some universal ideas/principles of self-discovery, performance and music. I thought about them for quite a while even after our discussion had concluded.
His way of using theatre to help people step both out of – and into – themselves is inspired.
Some of the key things I took from my time with Andre included:
- The Power of a Name – For both good and not-as-good … His story about going from “William” to “Andre” is powerful. I wonder what other names, labels, ideas or stories we may be putting upon ourselves to define our sense of worth but don’t really describe WHO we really are??
- Monologue to Dialogue – As Andre notes, being stuck in a monologue takes its toll on the imagination, and therefore can be very limiting. Monologues see people trapped in a perspective and not open to change. Dialogues are like dance. Which sounds most familiar to you?
- Letting Go to Receive – This is one of many paradoxical concepts we discuss. This describes his transformational shift in theatre – when he learned to relax and let go – he said he was “taking his eyes off of me.”
We also talked about Performance as an act of Vulnerability & Service – many performers being introverts and, yes, may have some ego but many others find it to be an incredible act of bravery to share. Andre’s nod toward viewing it as service is very interesting.
I really think you’re going to enjoy listening to Andre tell his story.
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Comments: Are You Playing a Role?
It took my life to collapse before I realized that all of the names I had attached to myself, like “husband,” “homeowner,” “business owner” and “songwriter” didn’t mean anything after they all went away and I was left with just plain old “Kevin.” Only then did I begin to discover and embrace who I really am. What about you?
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